I had a great meet up with Ruimin and Nicole last night and it was a long time since we had a catch up session. One thing that’s still on my mind is about relationship problems they talked about and how you can be sadder and cry more when you’re attached than when you’re single.
As my title suggests, I strongly believe that having someone by your side is always better than being alone. There’re so many examples in the world to prove this. Extremely few choose to remain alone all their life. Humans seek companionship and this need/desire is often stronger than our needs and wants for other things. You may see some people complain about the many problems with their boyfriend/girlfriend but they still want to be with them don’t they?
You may have more problems as a couple but you also have double the happiness and someone who loves you and to rely on by your side. If you think you’re better off alone, think again. You just want to be alone for a short while and believe me, loneliness isn’t something you want to carry around with you.
Having someone you care motivates you in many ways. You’d think of how to make your partner happy and also expect him/her to do the same. One would have more drive in life for your career, personal life and would put in effort to form strong bonds with your partner’s family too.
I’ve heard many complains about partners not doing things you expect them to do. For example, you want them to contact you regularly but they do not reach your expected frequency. This is just a problem that you have to fix or get used to. No matter the frequency, you do know that you have someone there. As for singles like myself, you have NO ONE there for you. That is seriously saddening sometimes.
I probably should focus on my job and just enjoy my life doing what I want during this part of my life. Having no experience with relationships, I don’t if what I say would be convincing for anyone. Deep down, I know what I am prepared to do for my future partner if I ever have one. Some friends would doubt me and say things like: “you don’t know what it’s like. You can say this because you have not experienced the problems before.” Well, I can’t deny that but I haven’t got a chance to prove myself and only few know me well enough to understand what I’d do for someone.
The main thing that I would like to say is that for those attached, please do treasure what you have. For if you lose it, you’d probably regret it and feel the true sadness of solitude.
Now this may be out of point but my experiences have taught me that kindness and niceness can get you nothing. Being taken for granted and having the feeling of being made used of is common I would say. Be it friends, girls or guys, I can say I have quite a bit of experience with this.
Friends who are attached, I believe you would have realised that I haven’t been contacting you as much as compared to when you were single. Go spend more time with your partner, they’re the only one who can be with you throughout the later part of your life. Who would go through thick and thin with you. A friend can only do that much, crossing some lines would do more harm than good.
Sometimes I feel like I’m not good enough for some reason. Other times, I am very confident. Maybe both are true, I am confident that I am not good enough for now. LOL.
Let’s see where life takes me. I really wish I can find someone soon. It’d make my family and my grandma very happy.
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